Being Sexy Online VS reality. 

by Von Wager


I think it's quite normal to have a complicated relationship with sex as a sexy content creator. It’s quite easy to make assumptions about what we might be like in the bedroom - I mean take pretty much ANY of our social media feeds, just look how SEXY and INTERESTING and awesome we are!! OH boy, they must be so good at all the sex and normal life based things! 


REALITY INCOMING 


We’ve been shooting all day, and all we want is to sit in our pants with no makeup on eating pizza whilst mindlessly scrolling on social media NOT thinking or talking about anything sexy WHATsoever. This is most of our norms - and it can be super hard to detach from our work sometimes, because our work is also part of something we do in our everyday lives.


That crossover bit is why it can be so hard for so many of us in the industry to try and make relationships work, or simply just try to navigate normal healthy sex lives - there are tons of blurry lines and issues that can spring up just from working in and around sex, for example: 


The old classic…..


“You look/act so sexy all day/at your show/at the club/at your shoot, why don’t you do that/say that/act like that for me” - delete as applicable 🤣


I mean hands up who’s heard that one before?! 🖐️  - and what an absolute boner killer that line is, eh? That is hands down the NUMBER one thing that will dry me up quicker than an absorbent sheet of Plenty. 


Now I will shout it from the back for those who can’t hear me, JUST BECAUSE we dress a certain way, do a certain act on stage, or post certain pictures does not mean we are going to look like that OR act like that 24/7! No sir. In fact, if you’re dating a sex worker the likelihood is you’re going to get the opposite 🤣


It’s a bit like dating a chef - they cook ALL day, the last thing they want to do when they get in is cook a gourmet meal (trust me I’m dating one, I do most of the cooking…ahhaha) - If you’ve been dragon dildoing yourself for the best part of 8 hours on cam - chances are when you get into bed that night, you’re going to need a little break, I mean that’s an extreme example - but it really is basically the same thing.