So you may have noticed that we have been awfully quiet of late! What was meant to be a short break grew into something much longer and while I battled with lockdown homeschooling and Von got lost somewhere in Doha it gave us some time to reflect.
Firstly, I want you to know that we (Von, myself, Aimee, and our Ambassadors: Frankii, Bea, Dani, Aiyla, and Jack) have worked SUPER hard on Get Your Bits Out, more than you will see from an outside perspective. We all really care about you guys and have put great thought into everything we have done so far.
Having said that, I want to be super transparent with you all about everything that has been going on behind the scenes with us, and let you know that the last couple of months of 2020 were hairy as fuck. Basically everything that could have gone wrong, did, starting in October when my household got Covid. After that I spent a lot of time really struggling to catch up and keep my head above water, juggling all the different things I was doing (Bits Out, Merch Out, calendars, all of our socials and schedules, my own OnlyFans, plus being a wife and mother) as everything pretty much imploded around me. It was here that I had to drop a lot of calendar projects to free up time and lower my workload, which I know was mega disappointing for a lot of people.
Outside of small beauty startups, I’d not run a business before and with management skills not being my strong point, I found it really tough. Being responsible for so many people (during a pandemic no less!) was a lot of pressure and ultimately it did me in and I got burnt out. Having some extended time off after Christmas was such a welcome relief and it really made me see how ridiculously hard I had been working, and also how much I had neglected both myself and my family.
For the best part of a year, Von and myself basically worked non stop, day and night, with no breaks. As we both have ADHD it is massively in our nature to do this, it's part of what is called "hyper focus" - where you focus on something to the detriment of everything else. It wasn’t until we got to Christmas on the verge of nervous breakdowns that we realised just how mental our workload had been. We ended up having a massive fall out as we were just so stressed and burnt out. Thankfully we got over it 😅.
However, it was obvious that we really needed some time out to reflect and to decide on how to move forward. The sex worker space is getting harder and harder to navigate each day as more regulations and rules are introduced and enforced. As the Covid virus gets worse and more lockdowns are announced the online sex worker space has gotten more crowded and competitive and creators are turning on each other more and more. It’s a really chaotic atmosphere and not great for anyone’s mental health, least of all two neurodiverse madheads like us! It’s a lot to take on, and while we have always tried to give the best advice that we can, how to approach this ever-changing world is something that changes on a daily basis. Keeping up with it all is a full time job in itself.
From my point of view, I spent a year working for GYBO for free, paying all staff and ambassadors (and prizes!) out of my own pocket. Overall, in the past year, I think I have spent about £20K on GYBO, which is fine as I could afford it (I didn’t get into debt and the business does turn a small profit) but it’s still a lot of money!! Towards the end of the year we had a few problems with creators cheating in our competitions and/or acting overly entitled and it just broke me a bit. It made me really question what I was doing.
Now don’t get me wrong, I love helping people and I love what we have achieved with GYBO. Our aim has always been to create a positive, informative, safe space for sexy content creators and I think we have definitely achieved that. We have helped so many more people than I ever thought we would, with these blogs, our podcast, our OnlyFans... plus our videos, 121s, custom plans, and workbooks. Almost all of the feedback we have gotten so far is overwhelmingly positive and it has been so lovely to help you all on your sexy journeys.
Obviously we had a few things that DIDN’T work - the calendars and merch website for example - but my feelings are at least we tried. With Get Your Merch Out in particular we tried our hardest to create a safe place for sex workers to source and sell sexy merchandise, but we were hit with website issues and the same payment processor issues that are plaguing sex workers everywhere. Basically we were sold a lot of broken promises by the web designer and what was initially sold to us as an adult-friendly payment processor turned out not to be. It was an expensive learning experience but I made it my mission to follow through with at least some of the calendars we promised and the ones that we did make all turned a profit for the creators involved, although I definitely do not want to create any more calendars after designing, organising, packing, and shipping them all myself (during BREXIT postal chaos no less) 😂.
As the schools are back and Von is back from her travels we will be spending the next few weeks figuring out our next steps, with a deep dive analysis of the past year. Hopefully this will help us to see the things that have worked well, so we can find a happy medium where we are doing things that are helpful and worthwhile but not over working ourselves into oblivion. In the meantime, if you have enjoyed anything we have done or found something helpful - please let us know! It will really help our analysis.
From me personally, I want to thank everyone who has joined and stuck around with us on here and I want you to know that I haven’t given up on GYBO, I just have to practise what I preach on self care and spend more time with my family.
Hope you are all staying safe and profitable out there!